I know that I tend to be venting a lot or things seem to being going wrong lately....but honestly there are so many things going on right now it's hard to keep everything straight.

First, I am constantly tired and fatigued and extremely emotional.

Second, I am pregnant and trying to save enough money for baby, and getting everything I need for her when she arrives....I am so far from being ready.

Third, my husband and I are saving money just in case we go on strike at our company in September. Unfortunately we work at the same place and we are both in a union so we would lose our pay for a whole month while on strike..so we are saving as much as possible right now.

Fourth, Me and my husband are starting to move...which is stressful enough...I hate moving, and I am sure that everyone shares my hate for it.

Fifth, my sister is getting married in less than 4 weeks. We just got done with one bridal shower, and she has one this coming weekend.

Sixth, I have to plan the Bachelorette party, which is for April 5th. On top of this, my sister, who is a complete bridezilla has to have everything her way, so being sensitive to what she may or may not want I asked he for suggestions about what she might want for her bachelorette party. She took me asking her what she would like to do as she has to plan it all and pay for everything...so she is crying and stressing about it. When I told her she didn't have to pay for anything that I would make it work. But instead of telling me how she feels she tells her fiance and he is pissed because he thinks i am making her pay and plan for her own bachelorette party.

Seventh, I was never raised being spoiled or getting what i wanted, but I had everything i needed, i was happy, i was loved by my family and thats all I needed. I didn't need the material things. My husband and i paid for our own wedding and it was a nice wedding that only costed $5000...for everything! My sister's wedding invites were $2000, her venue is close to $3000, favors about $2000, flowers (which I am doing) are about $1000 without any labor costs included, and many more things. By the way she expects my parents to pay for everything! My parents just got back on their feet from struggling for years and they currently have 5 differen't family members (cousins, my sister, and my sisters fiance) living in their house right now, and no one helps with groceries or electricity, water, etc. They spend $600-700 on groceries a week! She is mad my parents can't flip the bill for her whole wedding and she feels offended that she has had to pay for the things she has had to pay for.

Anyway, I am so mad, and I feel my sister is being ungrateful. She is getting mad at me for her being stressed out about planning a wedding, and she has so much on her plate and can't handle it, and for some reason she thinks she has to plan her bachelorette party (which is absurd, I wouldn' thave her do that). I haven't mentioned to her that I am 30 weeks pregnant, I am in constant pain, I dont' get sleep, and I have a load of things I have to take care of too, but then again if i did bring it up, she would just get pissed off because right now it's all about her!!!

Today I was in tears because of this whole ordeal. I am trying to not stress especially when I don't want to have the same episodes I was having this week at work. I am just so upset for my parents. I wish I could help them out with her wedding, but I can't afford to. I feel horrible and I am just pissed for my parents. Anyway.....

Side note: I have a few people (same people) who constantly ask me "are you alright, how are you feeling?" and they sometimes ask me twice in an hour. I kinda flipped out today when someone asked me, because i am tired of answering it, and there is nothing wrong with me...so if i am not in the hospital...I guess i'm doing just dandy......ugh.

AHHHHHHHHHH..............okay..well enough of me ranting...but I really really needed to get that off my chest.

And for those who think that things are just always horrible....it really isn't like that!! it really isn't. I guess my sisters attitude hasn't been helping anything for anyone, and the stress in the air is so thick you could cut it with a knife.
Wow I wrote way too much....LOL. So so so sorry ladies.

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Oh believe me...I know that sometimes it all just comes down on ya at once- and it sucks! Vent/rant away...it's best to get it out (and I suppose better not to let it all out on your sis right now- ya know, to keep what little sanity is left in Bridezilla! ). But, really, you do have to take a couple breathers for your self- that's just a must. I know you need to save $$$ but maybe taking $10 to treat yourself to a nice pedicure...or asking a good friend to come over and maybe swap facials or pedis for each other or something. Or maybe you can just tell everyone- your sis included- that you can only be reached til "X hour" of the night (reasonably early so you can have a quiet evening to yourself) then you are off limits til the next day so that you can get some much deserved r&r. Just do something that will get you the rest that you deserve and need!

I'm sorry things are so rough right now and I'm sorry that so many people seem to be taking advantage of your parents (which you can't do anything about btw- hard as that is to deal with) and I am sorry that your sis is being a total PITA with all wedding stuff (fwiw, my entire wedding totaled $3000.00 and DH and I paid for it so I get where you are coming from on that...and $2000 invites/$2000 favors- holy cow!!! Wow!)

Take it as easy as you can...Hang in there!!! Pretty soon the wedding will be over, the baby will be here, the move will be over with and (hopefully) the strike either won't happen OR it will quickly be resolved. And remember that you do have a place here to come to and vent...no matter how many things you feel you have to complain about!

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Allison Rene
May 13th 2008
7 lbs 6 oz & 20 in long

20004 Invitations!? thats crazy. My mom printed ours on the computer. Lol. Cheap. Our wedding was under 5000$ too. And to expect your parents to pay for it? I agree with you, she is being unreasonable. Is there any possible way to talk to her about it without making things worse?

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Let it out, Crysti! Venting to us is probably one of the best things you can do for yourself right now. You have a ton going on & it sounds like people aren't being very considerate of how you are feeling. I know how hard & stressful it can be to try to be ready for baby! Go ahead & focus on yourself & your own plans & moving for a bit. Bridezilla can wait!

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Its good to vent, it helps! Im sorry you are so stressed right now!*HUGS*

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Ugh! Sounds really stressful!! There probably isn't much you can do to make your sister calm down. Planning a wedding is super stressful, especially the month before, so she probably feels like she has a TON of stuff left to do even though she doesn't realize that she is getting help from you and others. If it gets too bad for you, just let her know that she is stressing you out too much and its not good for the baby.

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I'm more than happy to listen to your vent, you have every right to. Sounds like you're doing so much and no one is taking the time to notice that it's a lot even for a person that's not 30 weeks pregnant! Hang in there!

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Thanks Ladies, I am glad I have you all to vent to. There are days I wonder if I am being way too sensitive and if it's just my hormones that have gotten the best of me. I know i need to stop stressing and relax, but there is so much to do in so little time. My sister has not asked for help and when we try to give her suggestions she thinks we are trying to plan her wedding and make decisions for her. So it's like walking on glass right now. No one can do anything right, and she takes everything we say and twists it to the point where it looks like she is the victim. I love my sister, i really do. I can't wait to be in her wedding, but the last week or so, I wish my dr. would say I was on Bedrest...then I wouldn't have to deal with this drama.
Thanks again, you all are making me feel better, and somewhat sane.

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