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Dating. BLECH.

Posted 01-19-2008 at 03:38 PM by THEmommy

Being a single parent is hard. Being a single WOMAN at 25 is hard.
Combine those two concepts and you might as well just pack it up and accept your fate as the future "crazy cat lady".

Ok, so maybe its not THAT BAD....but it feels like it.

I've been "with someone" for a while. Nothing terribly serious, no "forever and ever" has been spoken yet. I'm just starting to realize how difficult this really is. He doesn't have children of his own, so he doesn't understand where I'm coming from when I say, "No, I can't go out tonite, I have to get up with Lily to get her ready for school". He doesn't get why I can't just let my sister in law take Ruby for the afternoon so that we can go to a movie.
These kids are MY responsibility. Its MY JOB to make sure that Lily has matching socks on when she goes to school. Its MY JOB to make sure that Ruby takes her afternoon nap.
I have to leave them enough when I go to work... I don't feel that its right to leave them much more than that, just so Mommy can go on dates.

Boyfriend comes over(after the kids are in bed) and we hang out, we watch movies, and all that good junk. We don't get to go out much.

I feel bad for him. He doesn't understand, and he gets frustrated with my lack of child-less freedom. But what am I supposed to do?
Do I break it off and hope that someone else comes along who understands...or do I wait it out, get more attached and hope that he comes to term with the fact that dating me comes with its problems.

Blech.

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Honey, you need to compromise. Even Mommies need a day away every now and then. Get a sitter and go out once or twice a month, on a weekend, sleep in a little, and spend the rest of the day with your children. And once in a while, he needs to include the children on the date. If he cant compromise for that, then he probably isnt a keeper. He does need to understand that he gets "three for the price of one" and you are a 'basket deal'. If he doesnt get that, and he only wants time with you without the kids, then he definitely isnt a keeper.

Posted 03-15-2008 at 04:37 PM by klcmaher klcmaher is offline

	Thanks. Sometimes I wonder if my whole attitude about this is "over the top" but I can't help but worry that someday my kids may look at me..and wonder why I couldn't juggle the concepts.
	Posted 03-15-2008 at 10:43 PM by THEmommy

I raised four (two boys, two girls) on my own for most of their young years. We dont get a manual with kids, we just have to do the best we can with what we have. We all make mistakes, the Lord knows I did, but if you love them, believe in them, listen to them, and be there for them always, then you cant go wrong. Mine are all grown adults now, and they didnt turn out too bad. I think the hardest part is once they are adults, its hard to let go.

Posted 03-16-2008 at 10:15 AM by klcmaher klcmaher is offline