You don't sound like a jerk at all! I thought for sure I would't get a shower either. It turns out I am getting 2... I feel bad for having them though because I don't really need any little things- everything I need is high ticket items, and honestly a few of those things are wants.. and not needs. I know hand me downs aren't as great as new stuff- but since you are having a boy too- I have a TON of baby boy clothes that I will NEVER use all of... I would be happy to send some your way! Maybe somebody is throwing you a shower- and it is a secret?? Hint around to your family- mom or sister and see if they bite- there is still time to plan one!!
and IF I could send you some cake I would! Just go buy yourself one- and have it for dessert one night (and maybe for breakfast the next day!) :-)

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Griffin Oliver born 7-15-08
7lbs 4oz 20.5"