The cycles I was so stressed out I had to go the ER because I kept getting shooting pain in my head that would drop me to my knees I ovulated on cd30. And actually the stress had nothing to do with TTC at all... there was something else going on in my life at that moment. That month TTC hardly even entered my mind. So usually stress has to do with when you ovulate.

There are some women that can completely de-stress. I have never ever been able to 100% de-stress. I feel pretty relax, actually more relaxed than I have been in a long time and it probably has to do with us not TTC right now... it feels good.

That being said. The month that I got what I call an evap on a HPT we were as relaxed as ever about TTC and went at it like bunnies. I think it was the best bd'ing of our marriage that month... we were all over each other and totally relaxed and we got an almost positive HPT (I just choose to call it a an evap since the regular test was positive but the digital never came up with pregnant). And actually that was probably the last month we were relaxed about TTC. Since then it has been a struggle for us both.... kind of a chore.

So there might be something to the relax and it will happen theory but it is okay to get upset when people say that. It really is. Ultimately I think it has more to do with science than relaxation but it can't hurt to relax right? Best wishes.

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