zennifer-
i must have said something misleading. her naps are awful. her nighttime sleeping is awful. she sleeps somewhat better at night when she is so totally exhausted from extraordinarily bad daytime sleeps. or sometimes she sleeps even worse when she is totally exhausted. 2 nights ago she slept s 7.5h stretch, then took a 3h nap later in the morning, last night she was up every 1-2h and i couldn't get her down for her morning nap that is her best sleep (best meaning I can get her to take it about 60-70% of the time). she sleeps a total of 10h each day usually, and that includes the 30 min naps that Pantley says don't even count.

we get up some time between 6:30-8am, and we go back down 1h later.This is the "first nap" she usually takes and it is usually 1-2h. any other sleep during the day is a crapshoot.

i know that 5-6h = sleep through the night thing, but that is for newborns. by the time a baby is 6 months old any resource will tell you they can sleep 8-10h at a stretch although some may still need 1-2 night wakings.

i do let her sleep swaddled, as that is the only way to get her to sleep. in her life she has probably managed to be put down to sleep a couple dozen times without the swaddle, and that includes all naps.

the lack of sleep is affecting my mood and it is affecting my marriage. half the things Pantley recommends like having a lovey require the baby to be able to use her hands at night, which mine can't because she can't go to sleep unswaddled. I am actually incredibly frustrated with the book as I feel it is a tantalizing fairy tale.

anyway she is screaming now, i do appreciate any useful info that can help us through this.