I went through the same thing (and I also felt really selfish for complaining about it) and that is the way you feel and you have a right to your feelings! I am of the firm belief that every baby - first, third, twelfth - deserves a "shower" even if its not gifts, just a celebration. I got soooo lucky and my girlfriends are giving me a shower this Friday, I'm very excited not for the presents but just that they are welcoming our new baby into our neighborhood. I really hope someone steps up and gives you one because it is an event that deserves some sort of recognition! We also can definitely afford whatever we need for this baby, but like I said, its the thought and the caring about our family that I find so touching.
Monica

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