Oh, Pamela, that is WONDERFUL news. Wait . . . back up. I'm so sorry about your grandfather . . . that part is NOT wonderful - what a terrible loss for you and your family. I've been through that, and it is just awful to lose someone so close, and it is scary for the family when something happens so suddenly like that. I hope that you and your family can give each other love and support during this difficult time.

Now . . . the next part. I'm so happy that you were able to get something positive from something so awful, and that this event has helped you move beyond the anger. This is a hard road, and I sometimes believe that ttc is not for the "faint of heart." There are losses, and disappointments, and serious frustrations . . . but maybe it is a lesson in parenting, because that certainly isn't going to be a piece of cake either. Unfortunately, there are many of us who have been on this board far too long - and some of us will be here for a while longer still. But, I truly believe we will ALL graduate eventually. I think maybe we are all here to "touch" each other in some way . . . I am certain that I am a better person from knowing all of you and your stories.

Welcome back . . . we missed you, and you offer so much to this board. Take it in stride . . . obsessing and hoping too much is tough, but you can also provide and give support along the way, and try to find a "healthy" long-term strategy for satisfying that need to be a mom. I read inspirational stories here everyday, and focusing on other people's journey somehow makes mine less lonely (and can even distract me). I hope that coming back does the same for you. There may be more disappointing cycles, but I am sure you will find the way to your answer and that !

And, I'm loving your new siggy!!

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