I am posting a new thread so I dont steal someone elses and in that thread I was asked about using a donor for IUI. Plus I guess I am doing this backwards instead of posting on the board prior to getting pregnant but I have an online friend here I want to support and see her get her lifes dream too, along with everyone else here.

1st a little history, as I said in that post I am now a 38 yr old single woman who wanted really bad to be a mom and the thoughts of doing it solo started over 5 yrs ago. I have tried dating and such but never found Mr Right and was even looking for Mr Okay but decided in 04 to do the donor thing. The 1st try in 04 failed and the 2nd on clomid worked, but at 8wks I found out that I had M/C and had to had a D&C. I will never know why but my thoughts were the donor I picked was A+ and I am A-. I had a few tries in 05 and 06 and they failed too. 07 was my year and I did clomid and injectiables and try 3 worked and I am finally a mom to a sweet 3 wk old. My trys each year were limited to funds from my IRS returns so I would only get 2 to 4 trys a year. Sperm isnt cheap and neither are the appointments or drugs but they are great tax write offs for medical expenses.

So now how did I chose.

The 1st 2 years I used a renknown clinic in Dallas and was given a book of donors and went by traits that liked and chose 1, again he was A+ and I really think that is what caused the M/C.
The last 2 years I used the hospital close to home and went online to one of the large Donor centers from teh east coast that was suggested. Again I went by traits that I liked and this time I made sure we were both the same blood type. My only issues with the last donor was his sperm counts so the last try (#3) I used 2 vials and bingo, 36 weeks later I have a precious baby boy.

I looked at their physical aspects, medical history and that of their family, education and goals. The last donor I picked has the same interests as I do and his physical description was close to that of my familys.

The decision to use a donor and someday deal with a child that might be mad at me for going this and how he will feel knowing that he will never know his father is something I will deal with as it happens. It wasnt an easy decision because I always figured I would be married by 25 and have 4 kids by 40 but that didnt happen and I wasnt going to totally give up the dream and look back at 60 and hate my life choices. It is hard doing this solo and there were times when you read about everyone elses DH/DO helping out and there is no one to share with, 1st U/S, 1st kicks, his birth and all of the other 1sts. So I made sure that I was the one that enjoyed them as much as possible and then did some of them like cut his cord ( well trim since I had to have an emergent c-section) and such.

No matter what I am very happy and wouldnt change any thing.

Good luck to all doing IUIs and hang in there.

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