Good luck at your Wednesday appointment. There is still hope. I've seen some wacky (unexpected...but good) things happen on this website over the past few years! If you want you can post on the IVF board too. Lots of people to offer you advice there and there have been people who've had ectopic pregnancies as well.
I didn't have experience with taking any drugs prior to the D&C when I miscarried. I was at about 8 1/2 weeks and went in and the baby's heart had stopped beating. So I went in the next day and had a D&C. The procedure hurt (I've had 2 other surgeries) but it wasn't too bad. It was more of an emotional thing for me. My husband was also very upset but he recovered alot more quickly than I did. He actually said a few months ago that he's not sad about it anymore....which is totally fine but I am still sad (my due date was May 3rd which is coming up). Baby things and other people with babies are definately depressing. I have 4 sisters and 2 of them have gotten pregnant since my m/c. OF course I was happy but also devastated (especially when my sister started talking about using a baby name I liked for her son due in July).
Yes this IVF result being positive has definately helped but I'm more of a nervous wreck than last time. Hopefully the #'s keep climbing.
I had my 3 IUIs at one specialist. Then I had a surgery for my endometriosis. When I went back to her she wanted to just put me on Clomid again for 6 months..not even with IUI...I totally bugged out b/c they just weren't working. I went to another specialist and he found what he thought was a blocked fallopian tube (which turned out to be a twisted tube around the ovary and some scarring). So he was the one who suggested IVF. I was extremely nervous about it and of course the expense scared me too (my insurance and now my husband's insurance doesn't cover anything). But it's been the only thing so far that gets me pregnant so that's why I'm sticking with it.
And see a specialist if you can....you will be definately happy you did.
Cindy

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Cindy Age 33
DH Rob Age 35
Married 9/19/98
TTC #1 since Nov 2004

3 IUIs with Clomid May-Jul 06

Lap to remove Endo Sept 2006
New doctor and new tests March 2007
2nd lap removed Endo, fixed tube/ovary and cervical stenosis May 2007

IVF #1: BFP on August 27th!!
No h/b on Sept 24th ; D&C Sept 25th
Angel went to heaven @8 weeks

IVF #2 E/R on March 31st; E/T on April 3rd-6 embryos transferred!
Beta #1 April 14th (11dp3dt): 242
Beta #2 April 17th (14dp3dt): 843
Beta #3 April 21st (18dp3dt): 4730
1st U/S April 25th: Showed 3 Yolk Sacs!
2nd U/S May 2nd: Saw + Heard 3 !
1st OB Appt May 14th: 3 Heartbeats still going strong!