Patty -
What a great picture!
I've been to probate three times now for the adoption paperwork. The woman I have to deal with there is SUCH an idiot! I walked in and told her I was there for the paperwork for a second parent adoption.. So, she says "A step parent adoption." I said "No, it's called a second parent adoption. My partner and I have a Civil Union and she just gave birth." Blank stare. "So you want paperwork for step parent adoption?" Apparently she just couldn't get her head around it. She said they had no such thing. I had to tell her that they do, in fact, have the paperwork because it is CT law. Finally she found it and we went over how to fill it out.
I brought it back the next day with a few questions. She didn't remember me so we had to start from scratch. Seriously, if you had never encountered a same sex adoption before wouldn't you remember the lesbian from the day before?? This is not a big town.
Get this - she looks at what I had filled out and points to the "father" line, which was blank. "Where's the father?" She says. I said "There is no father" She says "What, is he dead?" I said no, she says "How can there be no father? (Clearly this woman is clueless!!) Then she was trying to get me to fill in the paperwork as if I had given birth and Carolyn was adopting
After all that, I filled out all of the forms
with her walking me through it but I had to bring it home for Carolyn to sign one spot that she hadn't before. Carolyn stopped in to Probate on the way to work the other day and the stupid woman told her that I had filled it in ALL WRONG! I could freeking kill her except I feel like I have to be nice to her or she'll give us a hard time. AAAHHHHHH!!!!!!
So, DP brought home a fresh set of paperwork for us to fill in, from scratch. I hope this isn't a sign of things to come.
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