I am sorry you are experiencing so much pain. I was dx via laparoscopy (exploratory due to infertility, not because endo was suspected), and I have stage III/IV endo (doc said that it is bascially stage IV, but just not spread on both sides, so that's why it is labeled stage III). My left tube and ovary were glued to my pelvis, and since the surgery I have a persistent endometrioma. My ureter is buried in scar tissue, and she couldn't get it, or all of my ovary, free. As for s/e, I have some bladder issues and sometimes bad pain around AF. I am actually one of the "lucky" ones that doesn't experience pain as severely, although hormone stimulation doesn't help and some months are pretty bad... not nearly as bad as what you are experiencing, though. Since I am TTC, BCPs are not an option, but that was what my RE was going to use after I finally had a baby. But, now I don't have that option because I have also been diagnosed with a clotting problem. There are a few treatment options out there, but BCPs are the common first line treatment. Lap followed by drug therapy of some sort might be worth exploring if you are really in pain. I think a second opinion sounds like a great idea.

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Carrie, 34 DH, 42
Fuzzy babies: Puck, Pixie, & Perkins, Blackbeard(RIP), Easter (bunny, RIP)

Dx Hashimoto's hypothroidism, APA+,
lupus anticoagulant+, stage III/IV endometriosis
m/c 10/04 and 3/07