It is so upsetting! I am so sorry for you. Been there and done that. I was married 4 times all before age 30. Then finally got some sense and I am 50 and divorced. I decided after that last one that my relationship was no longer important. If he came back and could prove himself worthy of trust I might have taken the last man back but he never did. What was important was for me to stand up straight, get a grip and plunge myself into my children. They were what was important and my crying would not do them a lick of good. They would now need both a mother and a father and someone strong. If a man cannot resist temptation he is not strong enough to be a father anyway.

I had every man ever in my life cheat while I never did. To me that proved I was stronger than them. I did get antidepressant treatment once but I got over that quick. The mind over matter really does work. In the song...I am woman hear me ROAR!!!!! really does work.

Decide what your children's interests are. Mine liked Band, scouts, piano, voice and so forth. I found myself too busy to stop and cry. Then there was the money. I went to court and got my child support and worked a full time job as well. Between working, ushering my kids to their activities, housework, pets and gardening and drawing up a budget so I could give my kids the best education I was way too busy to cry. Every time I slipped back a little and was about to cry one of my kids would walk in and want to talk or help with homework or a project.

I had to be strong for them. As they grew up and moved on with their lives I now have my gardening, pets and still housework as I now have grandkids to look after. Life is worth it and can be rewarding. Never dwell on the negatives. We only get stronger with life's little downs and not ups. Believe me he will be the one that later looks back at what a strong woman he left and he will be the one that cries. CC