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I hate to tell you but, you a perpetuating the cycle of violence. You boys are likely to grow up to be abusers.
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WTF are you talking about? I don't abuse my kids, I don't beat them. So please tell me how you can tell me whom you don't know, that my children, whom you also don't know, will grow up to be abusers? They do not live in a violent home, so I'm not seeing how you come to that conclusion. My dh was spanked as a child, he is not a violent person. My dad, whom was the abuser in my family growing up was not abused nor spanked as a child. Who did he learn it from? Since you are all expert like, please tell me why this is so? You don't know jack.
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I think that gentle discipline or redirection will always work best when properly applied.
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I believe discipline period will work if applied properly. Meaning, if you spank, use timeouts or rediredtion, if they are used consistantly and at proper times, it will work best. As long as you are doing something to correct the behavior. Not everything works for everyone the same way.
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DO you actually think that babies understand what "night time" is?
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If you are consistant in teaching them what it is, yes, they will eventually learn.
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Do you realize that you are talking about "spoiling" a BABY??? Sweet mother of mary. You are a piece of work.
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Sure do. Maybe you didn't have one or maybe you did and just don't want to admit it. IMO, picking up a baby everytime it cries is spoiling the baby. I'm not talking about newborns, I'm talking about babies around 6 months or older. But I also believe in letting babies CIO, which I would venture to guess you think is horrible also, which is fine for you.
Why he made the choice to break the law? I don't know. He wanted to be "cool" and thought he would achieve that by stealing from people.
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You could offer to help pick up the toys so the child understands that, its not all that bad. You could make a game out of it. Such as offering something fun if the child picks up everything in a certain amount of time, and set a time clock. You could offer a consequence, such as no dessert after dinner if the child doesn't pick up the toys.
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Oh good God. The only thing I have done if my children refuse to pick their toys up is set a timer and if they won't get it done in a certain amount of time, I will pick the toys up and they lose them for a week. I will NOT make a game out of listening to me and following directions, that is NOT teaching them anything except again how to manipulate me.
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That is so sad that you actually believe that a BABY has the mind and intelligence to do something like that.
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It's not sad at all. It's fact. I believe it because I have dealt with it.
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Simply put, you do NOT need to resort to violence to raise healthy kids.
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Thank you. I already know this though. It's a good thing I don't do this.
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You need to do some research so the rest of you boys don't end up "in trouble with the law", or worse.
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Ohhhhh, so what you're saying is because my oldest son was spanked is why he CHOSE to break the law. And I'm a piece of work.
I think it is YOU who needs to do some research my dear, because you have NO idea what in the hell you are talking about. We have been to MANY phycologists about my son, with my son, they ALL knew he was spanked and you know what, not ONE of them blamed spanking as the cause of his behavior. I think you need to quit while you think you're ahead, because you know NOTHING.