Hi there,

Welcome back!

I understand the financial concerns with sperm banks. It's definitely been a strain for us and it's looking like the cost has become prohibitive for us. This may be our last try because of that. If I'm correct, I see you already have a child. I'm guessing it's not possible to use the same donor? How did you find that person? I don't know anything about finding a live donor, and frankly it scares me a bit. How are you ensuring they're free of disease? And how are you ensuring this person won't come back to demand parenting rights? Hopefully I'm not sounding preachy; given the cost of sperm banks, I'm also trying to think of other options for sperm.

Your location is also tough, though hopefully you're able to find a doctor to work with. You can, of course, always attempt home inseminations which effectively eliminates the need to see the doctor as much. The chances of successful conception are a bit less than IUI, but certainly feasible.

If you haven't already, I strongly recommend reading the book, "The New Essential Guide to Lesbian Conception, Pregnancy, and Birth" by Stephanie Brill. It's a little dense in places (because it's so chock-full of info), but it's got lots of important information.

Stay in touch! I'd love to know how you're doing.

All the best,
Max

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