Just lurking...

I'm sorry you are so discouraged. I'm curious as to why you are worried about the swing becoming a habit, though. If it's soothing to him and he's falling asleep (which is what you want/need), I would definitely use it.

When he's awake these stretches, is he unhappy and crying? Or is he just awake, leaving you to feel like you can't take a nap?

All my children were like your first - awake for only a few hours and then taking a nap - so I can understand you feeling like this isn't normal or something. Maybe co-sleeping with him during nap time will soothe him enough to sleep as well.

I hope you get some much needed rest soon!

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