I do not believe you are responsible for the losses. That is a terrible burden to place on yourself, so please release that guilt. If you have seen the Oprah show regarding the movie, they do seem to put the "power" in your hands. Actually, the most powerful message came in the "after the Show" portion. (My husband TIVo all of them for me.) It says that you are being prepared for the perfect person as that perfect person is being prepared for you. This may be regarding a future partner in the show, but I believe it can translate to your situation.
You have to be open to being "whole, perfect and complete" in order to move forward. Don't hold the fear, frustration or anger.
The ATTITUDE of GRATITUDE is one of the most powerful things you can focus on. Please know you are in our thoughts and affirmations. God is good and so are YOU!!!