Hi Beth,
Its so good hearing from you. Sorry you have to go through what you have been. I understand what you are saying about the wait list for donor eggs. DH and I had to wait for a year before we got our donor. But once that happened things moved very very quickly. We got PG with twins on the first attempt. We have some embies left over for a sibbling if we decide to go that route in the future. I highly recommend donor egg.... though it isn't for everyone. I'm just very happy to be carrying my DH's genetic babies. I have to admit to going through a mourning period that they have no genetic link to me. However, as the days go by I'm finding my maternal instinct kicking into overdrive and it no longer seems to matter. I would fight to the death for these little ones.
Whatever you decide... donor or adoption... or continuing to try for your own... I wish you all the very best of luck. You've been through so much.
Lisa