Jacquie, that is well said.

I know that once my initial hurt and shock passed, when the kids dad cheated on me, I wanted things to be 'ok' and back to normal. I wanted to think it would all work out. But I realized that no matter what, I would always wonder what he was up to, and I would always remember the level of disrespect he had for me that let him feel it was 'ok' to cheat.

I dont think I could ever rebuild a relationship with a cheater.

And an ongoing affair? HAH! I would NEVER want to see that loser's face again. Death by disassociation.

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