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Originally Posted by Emaline
I think it varies. I know many many many many women who have completely lost it all in their divorces and have had to fight tooth and nail for any penny they ever see from their ex's. I see their ex's living high on the hog and getting away with it all.
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I agree that this can happen. I have also seen women take men to the cleaners, also. However, what I am referring to primarily is the unfairness in family court when it comes to custody and access.
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The one girl I know who was not following things and causing trouble for her ex was pulled back into court, was told off by the judge and told how much she would lose if she continued with this. She backed off. I honestly do not know how far the judge would've taken things. I think it unfair to assume that it never happens though.
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Not sure what you are referring to here. Was this in regards to $? Because in custody and access issues $ is never a factor. So what could she lose? Sometimes judges threaten to give custody to the father (our judge did). But realistically? This almost never happens, and most mothers know this.
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I have never assumed that all cases are like this. I always assume that the children should go to who can parent them the best and no I do not care whether or not it is the mother or the father.
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It am glad that you feel that way. But my observations and study suggest that this is not what happens. In the overwhelming majority of cases the children go to who the mother wants them to (usually her) regardless of the best interests of the children.
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Nor do I think the courts are always automatically fair to the women.
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Fair is not the word here. There is no equality in the family court system. It is very biased towards women (as far as custody and access). I was very surprised to find this out. In fact, I have become somewhat of a Father's Advocate because of what I have learned.