Hi there:

I so understand what you are saying. I am now 46 and I had 6 children with my first husband and every time I got Pregnant ... oh the way people would look at me. I would hear "Oh you are not keeping it, are you?" Well, damn right I was. I was young, but I always held my head up high! To this day I proudly say I have 6 children and I have 10 grand children. My new husband (my first husband was killed 8 years ago) always asks why do you feel the need to always say the numbers? Well, simple ... I love my family and I am very proud of having 10 grandkids at my age. Well, it will be 11 come this Oct. But, now I am waiting on a tubal reversal and I am really feeling the pressure. I am not telling certain people in my life, if and when God blesses me with number 7 ... I will only tell those people, well I cannot believe this but I was one of those 18 out of 1000 who end up pregnant again after 10 years or more. I had my tubal 18 years ago. But my family,(my mom and kids) they all know though. But it is hard sometimes, because soooo many people think they have the right to judge. I do not ask anyone to pay money, I own my own home and I do not need peoples approval to have another. My heart is begging for another child and if I become blessed I will be so happy, and I will hold my head up. Remember ... ALWAYS be true to your own heart and soul and then you can do no wrong.

Good luck,
Lorna