Well, we certainly do need to take care of ourselves. So, I don't consider things a woman does to care for herself to nessesarily be selfish. I personally think it all comes down to how well you *know* your children, how *close* you are with your children. When I hear stories about teens who get into major trouble and their parents say they had no idea I often wonder how much time they had been spending with their kids. That is not to say that sh!t doesn't happen even to kids in families that do spend a lot of time together, but it is less likely to happen and when it does parents usually had an inkling something was wrong.

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