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I guess I'm kind of a lousy friend, huh? I'm so comfortable in my own life and home, and only want to get out and socialize on an occasional basis. So when a friend does come along, and they want to do things more frequently, I let them down because I'm not willing to put out that much more effort for them.
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I am not trying to bash you, but I am sure this might be part of your problem. I know when I do reach out to others (which can be hard for me), its hard when people are 'too busy' or 'not feeling good' or whatever. If I get that once or twice from the same person, then I"ll stop calling them.
And word can spread...there is this one girl I know here who is always saying she wants friends, but if you invite her somewhere, 90% of the time, she has a reason she won't go. Its usually that she feels like staying home. She is a homebody and I understand that, but people have pretty much stopped inviting her places because they figure she is just going to say no anyway.
Again, she does come sometimes, but since most of the time she says no, people get tired of that. For me, I get kind of hurt when people say no without a reason (not if they say "no" once mind you, but a few times, "just because") because it takes a lot of guts for me to put myself out there, and rejection is hard.
Anyway, this girl hardly gets invited anywhere by anyone now--and when new people move here, they quickly figure out from others that there is no point in trying to befriend her because she is not really "there" for anyone else. She is a great person and an awesome VT and attends RS activities and such...but...well, I guess I just think that in order to have a friend, you have to be one too.
Not saying you aren't a good friend or can't be one--just that you might have turned down good opportunities if you say "no" to the invitations of others. When this one gal I know says she wants friends to do stuff with, I just feel its partially her own fault for turning others away. I really do hope you meet a friend that meets your needs though! I really do.
