ITA with Geela, you've done more than your fair share in allowing him into your children's lives. Certainly more than he deserves after signing off his children so he wouldn't have to contribute any money to their upbringing. Your Dh sounds pretty amazing too and a very good father. Glad to hear you're sticking to your guns and I hope it works out. If not, then at least you know you tried and the failure is on his part.