Seems pretty simple to me. If his goal is to get to know the kids and have a relationship with them he will follow through. If not I guess you won't hear from him.

The sad thing is I doubt he accepts that *he* is the one who put himself in this position, not you and not your dh.

Again, good luck to you and happy new year

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