Tell me if I've missed something here.

1) you haven't had any contact with your ex for the last 6mo - meaning he doesn't know where to find you

2) your ex calls your friend, meaning he knows where to find her and she tells you

3) you call ex - he tells you to come get your ds's baby pics from him, 1st appointment he claims to not have them, 2nd appointment you get robbed at gunpoint - I imagine NOT by your ex (?)

4) your friend freaks on you because you went to the 2nd appointment without her ok (or so your post reads to me) and got robbed and she thinks that your EX might go after her? WTF?

If your ex wanted to go after her he wouldn't have much trouble since he already knows where she is, don't you think? Ok, maybe you should have insisted on him sending the package to Mail Boxes Etc or similar where you could go pick them up without having to see him or go into his seedy neighborhood, it would have been safer for you. But for your friend to insist that now she can't trust you seems really overboard imho. What doesn't she trust, that you won't be impulsive in the future? Why the heck didn't SHE suggest having the pics sent to you somewhere you could go pick them up, even paying the postage on retrieval? I think that even a PO will do that much. If you ex had refused to do it that way then I would guess that he just made the whole thing up.

I gather that if you left your ds's pics behind its because you had to get out with very light luggage, my heart goes out to you.

I honestly haven't any advice to give you on your relationship with your friend except to let her be for a day or two, maybe she just needs a chance to calm down some, if she said she'll get back to you then she probably will.
Let us know how you're doing, ok?

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Susan