It was my birthday yesterday, but I didn't really do much. My mum & dad came over during the day to deliver my card and a couple of presents, but apart from that I was home with Luke who is too young to be making a fuss of Mummy on her birthday. My sister is coming over on Sunday and the MIL is now not coming, so Luke and I will be celebrating then. We're not really having a party for Luke because I don't have the energy to organise one, so it's just family.
I could write a DH rant too right now, so I'm with you on priorities thing. Mine made zero effort for my birthday yesterday which is typical for him, but I still hoped. He did get me a present while he was in Australia the other week, but he gave me that as soon as he got back because he couldn't be bothered to wrap it. He hasn't got me a card (again!) and he got home late from work. He did give Luke his bath and put him to bed, but didn't come down for ages because he was doing some work upstairs. Then he decided that he wasn't hungry, but offered to get me something AFTER he'd dealt with his emails. It was past 8 o'clock by this time and he was still doing stuff for work. I was so angry I just walked out of the room. Of course he was so wrapped up in his emails he didn't notice for ages.
When he's away I miss him loads and can't wait until he gets back, but when he does he is usually tired (like I'm not!) and is so useless for the first few days that I almost wish he'd go away again. He tried to get back in my good books by loading the dishwasher, but he's going to have to work a bit harder than that.
I think his main problem is that he hasn't a clue how hard it is to be pregnant, work part time and look after a toddler with no help. He seems to think everything just stops when he's not there. My mum is great, but I don't like to ask her too much because she already gives up 3 days a week to look after Luke while I work. DH will be around after Christmas though. He has put a "Grounded" note in his diary throughout Jan, Feb and March, so I know he'll be in the country when this baby arrives.
That's partly why he's travelling so much at the moment, but not the only reason. It's mainly because they made him IS Director of Asia-Pacific as well as Europe. He's thrilled with the promotion and the challenge of the job, despite the fact they didn't actually give him any more money to compensate for the extra travelling.
You're not the only one going off the deep end today. I know it's partly the hormones, but if DH dares to suggest that he'll be sorry. I'm also finding it hard at the moment because next Saturday was the due date for the baby I lost. I'm really pleased to be pregnant again, but I do keep thinking about what might have been.