So I have spent the last 6 months researching all the different methods for swaying the odds for a girl, making a plan, taking all the supplements, and somewhat doing a girl diet. I have been so anxiously awaiting this month so that I could start TTC. Now I am scared that I am not going to be able to conceive with a cut off, and I am starting to have second thoughts.

I even have started to think that there are signs that I should just scrap the whole thing. First, every month my fertility monitor has been showing that my high fertility starts on day 10 or 11 of my cycle, and then my peak fertility (O) has been on day 14/15 or day 15/16. So, my plan all along was to BD only on the first 2 days of my high fertility, and then no more. That should give me a 3 to 4 day cut off. But then this month my monitor shows my peak fertilty starting this month on day 8. Today is day 11 and it is still showing peak. We BD on days 8-10 and I was planning on stopping, but now I am worried that something is wrong with my monitor and it is showing a high fertility when I am actually not having high fertility because I have never had a high fertility so early in my cycle. If something is wrong with it and I don't O until day 16, then stopping BD on day 10 is not going to be close enough for me to conceive. I have been totally stressing out about it for days. Now DH is getting fed up, he wants to just give up the whole TTC a girl thing, and just keep BD through the peak fertility shows up on the monitor.

I am starting to think that maybe he is right. I really want a girl, and this is our last chance, since we aren't going to have any more kids. But I really, really want to be pregnant and have a healthy baby. I think that stressing out like this is going to effect my fertility. Plus there is no guarantee that all this timiing stuff is even going to get us the girl that we want. I just don't know what to do at this point.

Sorry this is such a long vent, but I know that you girls will understand my crazy obsession, when nobody else can.

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Michelle, mommy to Tanner born 3/21/03 and Aiden born 6/6/06