Oh, that's exactly how I felt about when DH was a finalist at the U of Cincinnati. Take comfort in the fact that at least they probably paid for your DH to fly out. When we got the "picked someone else" email (yes, how obnoxious is that...an email!) all I could think was, "Well, there's 800 bucks I'll never get back." Grrrr. I guess it's all part of their process, but it sure does make it cruddy to be a runner-up!

Marianne