Re: new here and need help!
Hi again!
"I have tryed some of these tips... "
Because I don't have the book with me right now (my sister has it) I can't remember if one does logs etc from 0-4 months or not. What I do know, though, from having e-mailed Elizabeth Pantley to ask about problems I was having when I first started, is that she says her plan works best when you are doing all the tips, all the time. This is the reason that she gives : "Use as many of the solutions as possible, as they fit together like puzzle pieces. Doing only one or two things "a little bit" will help, but committing to your sleep plan and following many of the solutions will bring you better, quicker results!" (you can find more info on this in the sticky above entitled "Extra tips from the author of the No Cry Sleep Solution")
"but about the swing and stuff I want her to sleep in her crib I don't want her to be 5 and still sleeping with mommy and daddy"
I completely understand what you mean about how you want your baby to be able to sleep on her own. This method in NCSS is trying to do just that. However, EP goes about it in a totally different way than many other sleep books. Her method is very gentle and baby-centered... and very well researched: Many experts these days (the author of NCSS, James McKenna-head of the Mother and Baby Sleep Center in Notre Dame, Dr. Sears, Penelope Leach...) are saying that babies develop independence from being close with their parents and receiving comfort when they need it. When this comfort is freely given and a baby' cues are followed, she develops a trust in the belief that her parents will come to her when she needs them. She now will start to learn that sleep is a safe place to enter into, and can begin the business of learning to sleep longer. At 3 months old, babies are still very much attached to their Mommy, and how she acts right now will not necessarily be the way she will continue to act over the months and years.
Regarding sleeping in a swing etc; EP does suggest this in the book, not to become reliant on the swing, but to get your baby used to sleeping in lots of different situations, such as the car, the swing, with you etc.
Hope this helps! I'd love to answer more questions or concerns if you have them!
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