Hi Michelle. It's nice to meet you. My name is Kim and my partner Inger and I have been together for over 8 years. We had a commitment ceremony on May 15, 1999 and we began our quest for starting a family back in October. I graduated from college (for the 2nd time) back in May and I'm a physical therapist assistant. I was just made director of our facility back in November, so now I have that responsibility as well. I will be 36 in April and Inger will be 40 in October. We always thought I would be the one to get pregnant for a couple of reasons: 1) I've always wanted to be pregnant and 2) because Inger is older than I and she really hasn't had the "pregnancy fever" like I have. But we both want to be mommies more than anything. We had our first insemination in October and I got my first BFN. We inseminated again in November and I could've sworn I was pregnant, mainly be/c I had 5 or 6 symptoms that my mind couldn't control. I was three days late for AF, then she came. My M.D. thought it was possible that I was chemically pregnant (apparently, the egg just didn't develop after the spermy got through). Anyways, Inger and I decided to have a HSG to make sure everything was flowing smoothly. Turns out, I possibly have a unicornuate uterus (see my thread titled "Bad News")
. I'm having a laporoscopy this coming Friday to unblock a tube and take a closer look at my uterus. Fortunately, Inger's desire to be a mom is alot stronger than I thought because she is willing to get pregnant if I can't.
We have been doing IUI and we also use California Cryobank. They are fantastic there and a lot of different donors to choose from. We were looking for a 1/2 black donor because Inger is 1/2 black, along with some American Indian and English. She's the one sitting in the chair with our niece and nephew sitting on her lap in our signature photo.
Michelle, I'm like you and told everybody that we were inseminating be/c I wanted all of my close peeps involved with our journey. It is hard when everybody knows be/c they want to know how everything is going, but when we get a negative test, it's hard on them too be/c they are so supportive and excited for us to become moms. I guess that's our story for now, which could possibly change directions after my surgery on Friday. We are keeping our fingers crossed that the radiologist made a mistake with his diagnosis. I've been crying alot for the possibility of not being able to get pregnant and carry to term, but also for the possibility of us not becoming moms. It's really hard to keep positive, but I'm trying. Anyways, it was nice meeting you and I wish you and your partner all of the best of luck and lots of baby dust in your quest to become parents. Take care.
Kim